Own it: The Power of Taking Responsibility – Tags: behavioural, childhood patterns, empowering, hindsight, life lessons, personal growth, responsibility, self awareness, self growth, self improvement

Article | Life Lessons

Growth and personal freedom begin when we stop blaming and start owning.

Growth and personal freedom begin when we stop blaming and start owning.

Responsibility isn’t a burden — it’s your superpower.
Own your choices, own your power.

When you, like us, regularly visit social media sites, you will no doubt have seen posts that begin with:

“Hi, just after people’s thoughts…” or
“Am I overthinking this?”
“Someone [fill in name] hurt my feelings — but I am right, aren’t I?”
“It’s not about me, but…” [fill in]

Although most writers of posts are genuine in their quest for insight, they might have mixed feelings upon getting feedback. Some feel the need to add to their “Is it just me, or…” a justification of why someone else is entirely to blame for a row or a breakup.

In a relationship — friendship or romantic — breakup, there are two parties. Both parties, if they want to move away into a better future, need to acknowledge that it truly takes two to tango. Life isn’t black and white; there are even more than fifty shades of grey, and nothing is as straightforward as it may seem.

It’s so easy to act as judge and jury, but we should not: we never know the whole story, never know the impact it has on those involved. Of what went before.

In my experience, it turned out that in a sort of “goodbye” conversation between my ex and I, we both had a different view of the how and why of the breakup. My truth wasn’t his truth; what we perceive as truth is not objective when it relates to communication. One of the main reasons is the layering of the words uttered with the emotions behind them. We add substance and weight to what is spoken, and we are convinced the other party knows exactly what we mean.

It’s not the mountain we conquer but ourselves
– Sir Edmund Hillary

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